Before I start to talk about teen relationships I feel I have
to make a clarification. Many people when they think of the word
relationship, automatically equate it to love or sexual
relationship. According to the general definition of
relationship this is any connection between two or more elements
and these elements can be anything from chemical substances to
human beings. So from this definition it is simple to deduct the
meaning of this word applied to human beings. A teen
relationship can be any kind of relationship
between teens of the same gender
between teens of the opposite gender, like boyfriend girlfriend
relationships
between teens and other persons of the same or different gender
and different age.
The quality of these relationships can also vary, but there are
two kinds of teenager relationships I'm going to talk about
here;
teen friendships and
teen love relationships
Teen Friendships
This kind of teenager relationship will fit into all three
categories above. It can exist between a teenager and other
persons of same or different gender and age. A good friend - no
matter age or gender - is one of the best things you can have on
this earth. A really good friend that is special to you and
means much to you. A person that is always there for you.
Many successful love relationships has started with friendship
and this is probably the reason for it's success. The better you
know the other person, the better you'll go along with him or
her and in a long lasting love relationship - as man and woman -
your appreciation of your partner as a friend will mean much
more than anything else. If we look at it from the other end, it
seems much more difficult to build a friendship from a love or
sexual relationship. In fact, I have not heard about it, maybe
you have but the point is that a good friendship is always good
to have both as a basis of a future love relationship and as a
friendship by itself.
A teenage friendship can exist between anyone no matter what
gender, age, race, background or whatever. A 13 year old girl
and a 50 year old man can have a great and even lifelong
friendship together as well as two teenagers of the same gender.
Teen love relationships
While you can talk quite frankly and straight forward in a
friendship most of us are more aware of not hurting the partner
in a love relationship. This can evolve to a degree of lies and
even no communication at all just to protect your partner.
There are also more mutual expectations in a love relationship
and more intimate emotions are involved than in a good
friendship. A teen love relationship can be great and long
lasting but if there is no basis of friendship in it the
probability of sustaining it is significantly lower. There are
some legally defined limitations with regards to who can go into
a teen love or sexual relationship. It is illegal for people of
18 years and above to have a sexual relation to a minor but It
is definitely not illegal to have older friends.
A good friendship is one of the best gifts God has provided our
lives with and even if you marry the sweetest boy or girl in the
world, neither of you will be happy if you aren't good friends.
About the Author: Terje Brooks Ellingsen is a writer and
Sociologist who runs http://www.1st-self-improvement.net/. He
writes about self improvement issues like improving self
confidence, see
http://www.1st-self-improvement.net/self_esteem_improvement.htm
and relationship issues, see
http://www.1st-self-improvement.net/building_positive_relationships.htm.
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